They're in the wrong but we must get over it 🙄🙄

Several of my in-laws decided not to come to our wedding, and in fact also wrote my husband a letter disproving it (for no valid reason- years later they'd tell him it was because he made them not like me (how?).

Anyway, they've never apologized, never tried to make amends and instead continued to act like we were at fault by speaking ill of us.

Earlier this year my sister in law called him, wanting to make things right supposedly. The conversation went badly between her and my husband when she not only denied the existence of the letter at first, but then also told him that we must just get over it now, and get over them not coming.

If it was just a regular family gathering then maybe. But it was our WEDDING.

His sister is a huge narcissist so why are we surprised. 😒😒😒😒😒

*** They didn't come because they didn't want to. They flat out said no to my husband's face when he gave them the invites.

He never badmouthed me to them but the relationship had been pretty strained for a while. They didn't take too kindly to him moving out with me (ahem, he was 24). Tried to emotionally blackmail him (asking him who's going to help contribute to the household now, who is going to walk the dogs, etc, like they're incapable of doing it themselves. They expected so much of him but never gave him the freedom of opportunity to do anything for himself).

And I think they were jealous because at that stage we were living with MY family (who treat him as if he were their own son).

We tried to make amends several times over the years and in fact two weeks ago had flowers delivered to his mom's work. When he called her a few days later to find out if she received them, she just said yes and that's it.