Relationship help
My boyfriend and I have had a rocky summer. We were on and off for about three or four months and have decided to try and work things out again and things have been going well. However, he came to me a couple days ago and told me about the two girls he slept with while we were apart. I sort of expected this although it still hurt. The first girl it was just a one night stand but the second girl he hooked up with for a period of two weeks. The first girl doesn’t live here anymore but he works with the second girl and sees her often at work and when he hangs out with coworkers. I have struggled in the past with telling him how I feel about my feelings of jealousy because I had brought up how I didn’t really trust the first girl he hooked up with when the summer began and that’s kind of what led to our relationship falling apart. The second girl he was hooking up with asked him if he wanted to be more than just fuck buddies and he said no because he wasn’t ready but it was also because he still had feelings for me but he didn’t tell her that part. Pretty much all of his friends know about these two flanges but none of them know that we’re back together. And I know it’s because he doesn’t like to be talked about at work and he is a very private person but if he’s keeping me behind this curtain I am on comfortable. I want to tell him that I don’t want him to have contact with this girl outside of work because he and I still have things we need to work out and if I know that he’s still talking to her, it’s really hard for me to move past that. However in the past when I’ve brought up this sort of thing he’s told me that I have nothing to worry about and then the second we break up he sleeps with the girl I was worried about. So I’m terrified of that happening again with the second girl even though I’m also so tired of keeping my mouth shut about how I feel. My plan is to give him the ultimatum of it’s her or me, that you have to be willing to lose this friend in order to save the relationship with me but I don’t know how I can communicate that to him without feeling like the bad guy.
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