Bad sex, STI’s and other people. Help!

6 months in and we’ve had a problems that some people would have ran away from with the very first one.

Me (21) and my guy (25) have been talking for going on 6 months now. 3 months in he gets tested because he had what he thought was hair bumps on the base of his penis that started to itch to the point where he couldn’t resist scratching and he tested positive for genital herpes. During this outbreak before he knew it was herpes we had unprotected sex. I went to get tested for it but they told me that they couldn’t test unless there was an outbreak. I was hysterical. I obviously stayed with him and nothing sexual happened between us for almost two months.

Before all of that, he and I had very bad sex. Either he would ejaculate and I wouldn’t finish or I would orgasm and he wouldn’t finish. There was one time where we had really good sex and after that it was bad again.

He started having sex with someone else during the period that we weren’t doing anything. I was fine with that because we weren’t doing anything and we aren’t together officially. I thought that when we started having sex again he wouldn’t have sex with her anymore so we can work on our sex. Well, he didn’t. He says he enjoys sex with her. He also said that I my “p*ssy isn’t the greatest.”

I keep telling him if he doesn’t enjoy sex with me so much that he should just leave me alone and be with her but he has convinced himself that I’m what he wants even tho I’m not what he wants. What do I do? I’m tired of being bummed out about this. This whole situation is depressing, and I feel like I’m stuck because I really do love him and I think he does care but he just isn’t sexually satisfied.

What’s you guys’ take? I need advice not bashing or teasing.