Why are we the last thought

There was a discussion at my in-laws how my hubby is self-employed therefore he has the financial burden and to make sure the business is running. While I take care of our baby.

First off, I support my hubby 100% and he gives me credit for being his driving force to make this happen.

He lacks the ability to be patient with our LO and used to storm off when she would get cranky, leaving me to pick up the pieces. At which my in-laws said it wasn't right but because the stress at work, I need to be "the bigger person" I argued with them, just because I don't work anymore now doesn't mean I have it easy with as a first time mom. My FIL admitted not seeing his babies 3-4 at a time because he was working. It might have worked for them but not for me.

If I wanted to raise my child on my own, I could've gotten a sperm donor and not my man. Because everyone likes to see a happy baby but they turn around when it cries. After some talk with my hubby he has changed that and is more supportive when our baby gets difficult. And is more hands on.

What really has lingered in me in bitterness, my in-Laws butting in and telling me how to handle my home. On top of that NO ONE seems to care or acknowledge that the Woman not going to work doesn't mean we have it easy. The new life adjustment, PP stress, the blues, isolation and everything else that comes with it we just have to swallow it and not have a break. Where do these people come off? It makes me so angry