Is it time to just end it?..... PLEASE read it all

Question

So me and my boyfriend had our baby the first of Sept. we broke up 2 weeks after the baby and I can take accountability that I didn’t make it super easy as I was dealing with lots of postpartum anxiety, however I think that’s something you should stay and work with your partner through....
However, I think him and I had both fallen out of love quite some time ago. Looking back I wasn’t happy and I’m glad we broke up. He moved out, and a couple days later we decided we would work on things and be together but live seperate til we can afford our own house (we were living with my mom to save money, this also caused issues) 
Well honestly things have been going great. But I’m having these feelings I can’t really get over...
I feel like we are falling back in love and that would make me so happy except I don’t know if I can accept the way things have gone...
For example.... last night I asked him if he felt like we were falling back in love and he told me that’s not a question I ask someone so he never answered, but did make me feel very loved if that makes sense?
Then today he got up (he slept over) and said he was going to go home and shower then go get his paycheck and pay our bills. I said do you want me to get me and the baby ready and come with and we can spend the day? And he said no.
I asked him why he didn’t want us to come with and he said because he likes to take little breaks apart from each other. He works and goes to school til 10pm mon-thurs. How much more of a break do you need?
This is where I need advice.... I feel like I want to be with someone who shouts to the fucking world they are in love with me and I don’t even have to question it... I feel like I want to be with a man who looks forward to my company any time he can have it... I don’t know if I want to spend the rest of my life wondering if he’s in love with me or feeling like he doesn’t want me in his presence. I don’t want someone who needs to escape me, but instead looks forward to spending everyday with me....
My question is..... is it “normal” for him to want “breaks” from me? Do I accept this and we continue because things have been great? Are my expectations too high? 
Or do I end it?....

Answer

Working and school aren’t exactly “down time” so I can see where he’s coming from but at the same time I 100% understand where you’re coming from too. 
I’ve always had the mentality that if someone truly wanted to be with you, they would move heaven and earth to be with you/spend time with you. If you believe that too, don’t settle for anything less. 
I know this doesn’t necessarily answer your question but it sounds like you’re using the time apart to reconnect. But are you reconnecting in the way you want or is your relationship developing into something that’s more friends with benefits because it’s familiar and comfortable?

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Well, your hormones are going to be a disaster for a bit until you regulate after giving birth. 
Secondly, I love my so more than anything, just like I love my kids, dog, and 83 other pets. I still want breaks. We have our own hobbies, our own likes. We dont so every single thing together. We share the parent taxi duty, I am in charge of livestock shows and he does the kids public speaking prep. I'm on math duty he is on paper writing duty. I go to the movies alone, go on vacations alone with friends, just like he does. Having time apart from one another is important. I like the feeling of missing them every now and again.

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Well, I think it is normal to need some space from one another.  You two JUST broke up. Maybe take things a little slower this time and instead of rushing back into exactly what you were already doing, just minus living together, maybe you should be worrying less about "falling in love" focus on actually building a successful and healthy foundation for your relationship so you don't end up immediately back in this same boat after you move back in together. 
The issue here is you're all caught up in feelings.. you're ignoring the important bits that make a relationship successful and that's going to end exactly the same way it did the LAST time you jumped into a relationship with this dude based on nothing more than feelings.
If your relationship is only based on feeling in love with your partner your relationship will never stand the test of time.

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He’s not getting a break. Honestly, he’s not getting a break because he works and goes to school. 
Don’t push the relationship. It’s clear that he doesn’t regard the relationship the same way you are. 
You aren’t together. He’s with you because he’s being a father to his child and paying your bills and providing for the family. Not everyone can work with their partner if they are having postpartum anxiety. Not everyone can take on someone else’s mental health issues and deal with their own life. That’s very hard on a person and it’s also not an expectation. He has his own life too. He’s trying to work and go to school, which that in itself is hard. 
So yes, he can have as many breaks as he wants, because he’s working, going to school, and providing for you and the baby. You aren’t together. You can’t force him to spend extra time with you. What he feels might not be what you’re feeling and honestly, it’s seems as if he isn’t falling in love with you. The question alone upset him. Respect his wishes and respect his space.

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My ex was like that, we didn’t have a child together so it’s a bit different but he wanted time away from me while keeping me on the hook with half assed effort. Years later, my now husband can’t wait to spend his time with me and makes effort in every aspect i never had before. There’s someone that’ll give you the world but I’ve always lived but the saying “to catch a rare bird you must be a rare bird” so maybe work on you and get that rare bird.

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If you’re broken up then he can have as many breaks from you as he wants

Is it time to just end it?..... PLEASE read it all

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