Anybody struggle with horrible in laws 😭

Not baby related kinda, but this morning at 7am while I was feeding baby this lady came through my front door and I was so confused 🤷🏻‍♀️ well it was for my father in law I guess she’s helping him with some stuff (he’s paraplegic)so I texted him telling him you should of told me somebody was coming early I got scared for the kids and he said oh I forgot 😑 well I then told him just tell her not to make that much noise cuz the kids are sleeping..he takes everything the wrong way so I know he’s going to mix things around and say other things about me 😢 but do you think I had the right to tell him he should have given me a heads up and to be a little more quiet? Oh and btw he lives with us