It’s Almost Over

Any advice for someone you know is looming a breakup, but it’s not completely over yet, and you live together??

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. After discovering he was trying to purchase a ring to propose I told him to hold off, I wasn’t sure I’d say yes. He was confused because I had always talked about getting married, but I truthfully always talked about a wedding. I realized I couldn’t spend my life with him. But I haven’t told him that yet.

I left for a month, and realized he ate fast food the entire time I was gone and put on weight. He was about 300lbs in March but he says he doesn’t weigh himself anymore, it’s depressing. It was really not sexy to realize how much this adult man depended on me. Especially when I returned home to a dirty house he expected me to clean. I was gone recovering from surgery at my parents because I knew he couldn’t take care of me.

He wants me to learn Spanish, but when I try he ridicules me. Makes fun of my pronunciation and tells me I sound like a tourist, but he also says he doesn’t want to have children until I learn Spanish. But he doesn’t really help me either.

He’s very lazy. He doesn’t even play his instruments anymore. He gives up easily. He gave up his principle instrument after 2 bad reviews. He is still in the music program in college, but he’s completely given up on writing music. He just eats and watches tv, in a room full of instruments. He’s hardly even going to class.

We still live in our college town, and I’d like to move. We were set up graduate the same semester but I’ve been out of school for 1 1/2 now, and he’s in jeopardy of not graduating this semester either. Always broke, we never go on vacation. And he uses his school refund of stupid things like plane tickets to go see his favorite football team play in a city he’s never been. No invite.

He says he’s working on it. He knows. But I’m tired of being his mama. I’m just really tired. This is a man child, and we have 6 months left on a lease of a 2 bedroom/3 bath apartment. But he said if we break up he’s leaving (it would hurt too much to see me🙄) and I would be stuck in an apartment in a city I didn’t even want to live in. Ughhh.

And he just asked me for $25, after he booked an AirBnB for his friends 😡😡😡