Advice on an abroad wedding invite

Hi ladies, hoping someone can offer advice. I am a FTM due on 2nd January. My best friend is getting married on Oct 2nd 2020 in Turkey and has asked me to be bridesmaid. The thing is, our baby will be around 9 months old then and he is not invited as this is a child free wedding. The situation is starting to stress me out because she wants to know if myself and my husband are coming and I honestly don’t know what to say to her yet!!

Couple of issues;

- I know once he is here, I won’t want to leave him or be away from him for that long

- Equally, even if I could convince her to let him attend, my husband is very against the idea of taking a baby on a long flight and to Turkey as there’s a lot of political unrest there at the minute

- we are 1h30 away from family and don’t have any babysitters. Plus it would be a big ask for someone to care for him for that long.

- if I’m breast feeding, which I plan to, how can I be away from my baby for 3/4 days?

- We would also have to pay for the trip (less of an issue really)

Just wondered if anyone had any words of advice? 😬 what would you do?