Having a hard time connecting to baby#2..

I had my first son in December 2018. He was not planned. But after finding out, I was so excited! I couldn’t stop checking my pregnancy apps to see what would be developing each week and how big he was getting in comparison to things. I felt very connected to my son during my first pregnancy from the moment I found out I was pregnant. We had picked a name for our son a week after finding out he was a boy. I felt even more connected once he had a name.

I am now 18+ weeks with son #2 and I’m having a hard time feeling connected to him. I am not sure if it’s the stress I’ve been under which hasn’t really let me relax or what.. We found out he was a boy a month ago and haven’t really discussed names. I’ve felt small kicks lately which seem to make me feel a little more connected but only when he kicks /:

I’m not sure what is causing this disconnect but I want to feel close with him like I did with my first son. Could this be a normal feeling? Am I overreacting? Will I feel more of a connection when he’s here? Or is this just how it will be...?

I understand that this is a pretty loaded question and no one really knows the answer.. I guess I’m just looking for reassurance than I will be able to build a connection with my son.

Thanks!