How do you deal with people who make you feel bad about carrying your child?

There is this whole belief " put child down or you spoil him" let him cry, don't respond immediately.

And when your child cries for wanting to be help, they give you eyes like he is spoilt and you are doing it wrong. How do you handle that?

I feel unnatural letting my baby cry, and not responding because I feel like why should I give birth to a child if I don't want my life to change at all. I feel some things change and are natural and the crying is age appropriate. I haven't seen a 10 year old cry to be helped to sleep no matter how bad their mom spoilt them. I just can't let my baby cry it out. But I also don't want to subject him to being hated because he is being branded as a spoilt child all because he ain't used to being ignored. What do I do? He is 18 weeks and I get weird eyes when he cries. I feel bad for him and I wonder if attending to him is good if it will cause people to treat him bad.