Autistic spouses can be abusive.

It’s tiring sometimes to see all the autism awareness and positivity, not because I’m an evil person but because there is a flip side. Being married to a higher-functioning autistic person can lead to OTRS, a syndrome from being subjected to repeated psychological trauma in a relationship, as well as Cassandra syndrome where you are invalidated by everyone else saying “oh he/she’s so nice though!” when in reality the autistic person is a master imitator in public.

How much are you expected to set yourself on fire for someone incapable of feeling much empathy and is completely selfish?