Listen to the bad vibes.. No negativity please.

If you feel like something is off in your relationship believe that vibe. I was with my now ex boyfriend for a year and at first things was fine we loved each other, well I should say I loved him. Eventually I started seeing him lying more or maybe he’s always been lying but I never really paid attention to it because I was so into him. Well our co-worker he was a little too close with her. And they worked together before I got the job there and once we got together I asked was it a thing between the two of them because I would notice he would act different when she’s around. She worked in a different part of the job and people always said he’s always over there talking with her.He would say oh no that’s not the case we’re just close friends our family knows each other. So I dropped it. Then I would be looking for him at work so we can go to lunch together for once (our schedules would be different sometimes) and he would drive to go sit somewhere with our co-worker.. (I’ll tell you how I found out in second) so I didn’t see him anywhere so I would just go on break and I would see him later. He would always come over my house and one day I asked hey why don’t you never invite me over he said oh I will you just never asked RED FLAG! Even after me saying that I still never went or seen his house. We started arguing because I kept feeling like I was being lied to and kept a secret. Like I mentioned he would act different around our co-worker the one he called his “friend” I didn’t really talk to her because she came off snobby at times so I just stayed away. Fast forward... I just so happen to be looking out the window and I see her car and HIS car riding down the street on our break I called him to ask where he was going and to see would he pick up the phone. He didn’t answer I called twice! Another RED FLAG he got back later and said he was on the phone with his ma that’s why he didn’t answer. I didn’t even bother to mentioned I seen him leaving with her I just wanted to test him to see if he would lie. So that was it. I approached the co-worker the next day (not being rude or anything I just needed to know the truth) she told me EVERYTHING. By us working different parts at the job it was kind of easy for him to lie and plus me and her didn’t talk! Well, he was in a relationship with her the day before he brought her flowers to her HOME. She said she didn’t know that we was together and etc. then of course he pops up and he looks shocked because he didn’t think I would be talking to her. I asked him did he love me ( I asked this because that’s all he use to tell me) he said no I love her not even looking at me in my face! He’s looking at her face to face, I just felt dumb.I was over it. I forgot to mention me and her have the same birthday month so he came to my house and dropped off flowers had sex with me then left( he claimed he had to go pick his mom up)I’m not even a big fan of flowers and I told him before my birthday that all I want is a cake from this place because I love their cakes he didn’t buy it he said he forgot. I go to work a couple days later and it’s her birthday (I heard) and he brings her a cake!! And flowers like wtf! This is another reason why I approached her because I know talking to him would go nowhere he would just lie! She left worked and he left work too I guess he couldn’t take her being mad at him. I went home just to cry my eyes out I was so hurt. He texts me later saying he’s sorry I don’t even reply. And I eventually found out he was still married!! He was still living with her! That’s why I never could go to his house and he would always talk to me when he was outside, I could hear on the phone. It’s so much more bs he did to me even after I found out. He told me not to text or call him he would call me just so my co-worker won’t be mad at him anymore. He said this in person when I was crying my eyes out in disbelief he didn’t care. I regret a lot and I will never be so gullible for a man .. I mean little boy.