Should I or shouldn’t I

For the past few day people been telling me I should send my daughter with my husband when he leave the state and I don’t know what to do part of me want to but part of me don’t so I don’t feel alone long story short we already had to send our other two kids to his mom house and he will be joining them at the beginning of the year. I can’t leave the state because I had a mental breakdown and have been place on probation for it I have to wait either the last two years or until he has a place of his own so I can join them please help me I don’t know what to do