Ok I’m I being a bitch or should be man up

So lately I’m being getting after my husband for not helping around the house or with kids when he has to stay home with them. (Kids are 7-12 years old) he withers makes a mess or don’t watch the kids enough to not let them make a mess. If I ask him to actually watch the kids he gets mad. If I ask him to do the dishes he want sex. Well he wants sex for anything he does. He does work on a farm but he should still help. Both of parents worked and both helped with kids and household chores. So I don’t see why he can’t. Just because his mom and sisters stay home and do everything for their man. I can’t do that. I’m sorry. I’m a stay at home mom not by choice he and his parents made me saying if I don’t stay they will take my kids away. But that a whole other things.