Why do I want to be a mom so badly... 21?

Question

I had a severely abusive childhood. I was raped at 15, stood court trials alone, and attempted suicide at 17. My childhood was stolen from me. My happiness was stolen from me. 
Fast forward, I am in nursing school and my fiance is a police sergeant. I am set to graduate this May.
I know that having a child right now is a horrible idea, and I would never actually purposefully get pregnant right now, but sometimes I just FEEL the need to get pregnant and have a child. It's so difficult to explain.
I just want to give my child(ren) the life that I never had, and it breaks my my heart that I can't have a baby right now. I just want that so badly, but my conscience knows that it is not the right time and that I am going to college and working so hard to give my children the best life possible so they don't ever have to go through that I did.
How do I get this feeling to go away?

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Utilize your desire to nurture elsewhere. Volunteer somewhere like an after school program for kids or an animal shelter. Learn to quilt or something and make blankets to donate. Do one of those big sister programs. Find those organizations where you sponsor a child. They send you a photo and info about a kid and you buy them things they need.

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Honestly, I think if you havent done it already.. therapy could really help you. What your feeling is not wrong, you want that because of the life you have lived thus far but being realistic is also key so that life doesnt repeat itself. Children dont always fill voids that people have gained over their years of abuse. Working on those issues before the children come into play will help you be an even better mom because you'll be more emotionally available to handle what's coming at you. I wish you all the best and luck.

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Honestly, I get it. I think it’s normal (at least for me). You’re rebuilding your life after horrible times and a childhood for you, and now you have a loving relationship with someone and a solid career and you want to make it a happy little family. Give your baby a happy childhood you never got to have with two parents who love each other. Even if it might not be the most ideal time, ive wanted that too. 
My suggestion would be to keep focused on school/careers and same for your fiancé. Use this time to get ahead and also solidify your relationship’s foundation. Make solid memories. You can totally talk about it, but having a kid when you’re in school and planning a wedding adds so much stress, even if they’re all good and happy things.

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I’m so sorry for your trauma. It’s totally normal to want to have a baby, even people who haven’t been through what you have want to have babies at awful times, even really happy times because they want to share it with someone else. Just keep your focus, and know that when the time is right you will have a baby one way or the other. ❤️

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You don't. It's called baby fever, which is ingrained into our brains as an instinct. It's an instinct to want to reproduce to keep the human race going. The only way to deal with it is to listen to your logic over your feeling. Just because someone has baby fever, does not automatically mean they are actually ready to have a baby. So you have to stop and listen to your logic and use self control

Why do I want to be a mom so badly... 21?

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