Anyone with step children?

Question

I have two step sons and have been in their lives a long time. Basically their mom even tho one goes to his moms week on week off and the other lives with us full time..
I’m pregnant with my first baby their brother or sister...
I want them to be close and not call each other “half” 
Since announcing and my husbands ex finding out she tries her hardest to keep the youngest one away from me and cause problems at our home because she tells him to act a certain way to me now...
I can’t help but feel so depressed by it because I know this is going to be the rest of my life dealing with her and I want my baby to be close with their brothers... 
Anyone else having a similar issue? Or can aid advise?

Answer

I have 2 older step-sons, 8 & 10, and have been in their lives since they were 2 & 4. They have an extremely strained relationship with my husband's ex and live with us full-time. They are OBSESSED with their baby brother and soon-to-be baby sister.
My husband's ex has tried everything she can think of to sabotage my relationship with them since the get-go, and has gone out of her way to try and sabotage their relationship with their brother.  She's done everything from telling them that the only reason parents have more than one kid is because they don't like the one they have (which is ironic since she had 2 kids...), she's tried to tell them that I probably wouldn't let them call me mom anymore now that I had a "real" son, and she goes out of her way call my youngest their half-brother. Let me tell you, they were furious with her, to the point that they put her in her place if she so much as mentions their baby brother.
Kids are extremely perceptive, and your son will eventually (if he doesn't already) see through her bullshit and see exactly what she's doing. She isn't going to be able to sway his feelings about the new baby, because it will be a huge red flag to him that she's saying one thing and he's seeing and feeling another. Just don't let it get to you, and don't comment on anything that he says that she says. Let him see that she's the only one trying to start trouble and having something negative to say.

Anyone with step children?

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