2nd c section vs VBAC

I don't think I will have the necessary energy to push due to permanently being anaemic which for many years won't come to a normal range whatever I eat and take. I feel too weak. I am also scared of tearing and stitches down below, I can handle needles for blood test only. I am more inclined towards a second c section. However I am concerned as I have a clingy toddler at home and my husband would likely only be able to take 2 weeks off. Please share your experiences of having a second c section with toddler at home if possible