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Has this been discussed with your family on whether they would be okay with you having another baby while living with them?
Ok I need to vent.... š©
So my husband and I have a 22 month old daughter...and we always wanted our kids to be 2-3 years apart.. So Iām ready to have another one but my husband wants to wait until we have a house but it looks like it wonāt be until the summer/fall.. right now we live upstairs at my parents and it has a lot of space and we have been saving ... my daughter is loved by so many people right now and is being taking care of while we both have to go to work... he wants to be more independent by buying a house and trust me I do too and Iāve been stressing about it but honestly Iām done stressing about getting a house ASAP. We will get a house one day and where we are now has a lot of space ... we actually have another bedroom if we had another kid.
So my thing is why buy a house then try to have a kid which will be stressful when we can have another kid and then take our time and find out dream house .. houses where I live are EXPENSIVE.
Well a week and a half ago he said he THINKS he pulled out on time but isnāt sure. I hope he didnāt š©
I need yāall opinions without being rude.
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Je
Everyone keeps telling us that too. We have been looking for 6 months now and nothing in our budget that we like.
am
I don't see the big issue then. We own our home and it's not all it's cracked up to be. lol. Just had to replace a $7,500 AC unit a few months back. š
Je
We live upstairs though so weāre not always together
Heās fooling himself if he thinks you will be more independent if you buy a house. Houses are a thousand times more expensive than kids. Youāre finances will be rocked with the purchase of a house, kid or no kid.
Je
Hahaha Iāve thought about it before
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I wouldnāt move out of that perfect situation. Youāre crazy lol Iād stay forever.
Je
I just rather take our time with getting a house
There is nothing wrong with living with your family and having a family. I honestly donāt believe in waiting until āone dayā you can afford such and such. Raising kids is a sacred thing and I can tell you, if we had waited to have kids until we could afford it, we would never have kids. Life is expensive. We have two kids expecting a third and while I donāt know how we did the first two we have managed to feed and cloth them for the last 5 years, weāll be able to figure out this one too. I understand I might get a lot of flack for this belief but That is where I stand. I donāt know that you should get pregnant though until you are both ready so it doesnāt cause resentment and unnecessary stress between you and your husband.
Je
I agree ! And heās ready, he just wants a house lol
Of course thereās nothing wrong with your current situation, on the other hand I think your husband needs to feel āmore successfulā maybe and perhaps he feels heās getting too much help from the family. My husband always feels bad when my parents give me money, he feels heās not enough. I know itās also kind of silly but donāt dismiss his feelings... we have to find a way together like it or not š
Je
Well said. I agree
You might want another baby, but you can wait. Your husband & you should get a house first. Honestly, a house or apartment should've been considered before marriage. Yes your daughter has so many that love her, but I don't think it's appropriate to be having your own family living in your parents upstairs. I see where your husband is coming from. House hunting is a lot of fun. Might be stressful, but I think trying to have a full family in your parents house is a whole different stress level.
Je
We live in the top lol so it is an apartment pretty much...we just donāt have our own kitchen
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