I need advice
So I moved into uni this year and immediately clicked with the guy across the hall. I had a bf at the beginning of the year so nothing happened between us but we became super close super quick-he was honestly one of my best friends. Things didn’t end up working out with the bf so when we broke up me and him semi quickly started hooking up casually at parties and watching movies, cuddling etc. everyone told me to watch out cuz he was way more into me than I was him and I wasn’t sure if I wanted a relationship but he seemed like he did.
We ended up almost having sex one day (he’s a virgin) but stopped and talked about our relationship afterwards. We agreed on exclusive but not dating. After that decision everything was going super well and I started to develop real feelings for him. Every time he was around my heart felt at peace and I felt truly happy just spending time with him even if nothing was really happening-just knowing he was there made me the happiest.
One day, however, he started to get distant out of nowhere. He’d spend nights at his work instead of at his dorm and I’d not see him for like days on end. This made me really sad and confused because I thought I did something wrong. This lead me to being a little bit more pushy for lovey stuff than normal but I still respected his boundaries and made sure to give him space if he seemed like he needed it.
One day I had had enough. We were having a party but he was at his work so I texted him telling him we could put a pause on everything if he wanted since he seemed off. He said yes he wants that but that wasn’t really my intention. I was hoping so badly that I could retract my offer so I kept telling him I’d stop being pushy and give him space etc. if it meant we could still be together because he means a lot to me. He still said for the sake of our friendship we should end it. I didn’t wanna fight him so I just agreed. I only really agreed because I wanted to be those best friends that we were at the beginning of the year again but all he’s done since we ended it was become more hostile with me and more distant
My question for y’all is do u think I should text him and try to fix our friendship because I really miss it and I miss having him around? Or should I give him space and then hope everything fixes itself even if that means I’m unhappy and anxious about the fate of our relationship over the break? Also do u think if we fixed our friendship he would go for being friends with benefits or friends that makeout occasionally lol or should I not even bring it up? I just miss the way he smells and tastes and I wasn’t ready for our relationship to end and would give anything to have it back. Thanks!
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