M-I-L over stepping the mark

What’s everyone’s opinion? I have a mother in law who is very excited for this pregnancy and so she should be/allowed to be, my whole family are also very excited however

A couple of comments have been made which is defiantly beginning to piss me off.

1. I am doing something special for her on Christmas Day about finding the gender out. So that she’s involved. I’ve brought her a cute card from Etsy that it’s like a scratch card type that reveals the gender, I’ve said I don’t want her opening it until we call her to see her reaction. Which she said she won’t but I know she’ll be annoyed with the fact she’s not finding out before us ( she’s said this before)

2. I’ve said I don’t want anything posted on ANY social media until me and my partner have announced ourselves first.

But she’s adamant she can post before us as it’s her grandchild and just not tag me🤷🏼‍♀️

3. For the birth I am having my partner (if he’s not deployed) and my mother. If he’s deployed then it’s just my mum and myself. She’s said that she we will be coming when I go into labour and is driving me. But I’ve said multiple times on how it’s gonna go🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

4. There also just a MASSIVE competition it seems with her and that she thinks she’s missing out on shit when she’s not.

AM I GOING CRAZY. or am I allowed to be like urm nah this is my and my partners pregnancy not yours, stay in your place.