Men With Previous Relationship Trauma?

Probably not a headline youd expect but I just started a relationship with a guy who has had some pretty shitty girlfriends. He has really weird self esteem issues. He disclosed to me that his previous relationships consisted of physical and verbal abuse and women using him for money. He is really shy but seriously the sweetest guy I've dated.

I told him I dont want him to buy me anything or court me like that because what I care about is our connection.

That being said, he sends me gifts all the time and is always offering to cover different bills of mine (I'm a full time student with a part time job living in a very expensive city).

I think he genuinely enjoys taking care of me like that but when it comes to the other substance of the relationship (sex and vulnerability) he is amiss.

I think these other women have conditioned him to think that hes only good for money purposes and I dont know how to convey to him all I want is for him to feel like i support him. He isnt as affectionate as I am and he is really embarrassed of his body and sexual performance (which I have no idea why 🤪)

Does anyone have experience with men that have a hard time accepting love?

I am being very patient with the emotional intimacy of our relationship but any advice is welcomed!