Am I overreacting?: Holiday Blues

I’m 21, my bf is 22. Me and my bf have been dating for a two years. This year, I invited him over to spend Christmas with me and my family. His family doesn’t celebrate Christmas, it’s not like I was stealing him away from his own celebration. First he said he’d go, then last minute he flaked on me and said that it was too far a drive. His parents live 45 minutes away. I had to deal with a bunch of embarrassing questions.

My family doesn’t really celebrate New Years and neither does his, so I went home (about an hour and 20 away). My boyfriend and I live in the same city literally a 10 minute walk from each other. I asked him if he wanted to go out. We live in a college town so there’s always events and bars. He said that he doesn’t feel like driving and would rather stay at his parents house because he’s already there.

I’m wasn’t too upset, I’m spending New Years with my friends instead. But, I just really wanted to spend the holidays with him.

But what’s PISSING ME OFF is that his birthday is January 4th and he wants me to catch the greyhound (I don’t drive) to his parents house for 3 1/2 hours to come see him. Mind you, we’re both in school and classes start the 6th. I asked him why doesn’t he just come back for the semester and his reason; he wants to stay at home because he doesn’t have to cook or clean. When he said that i literally lost my shit.

I want to break up with him, but it’s fucking New Years the his birthday and I don’t want to be cruel.