Build-A-Boyfriend ?? ❤️🧸

Super quick Backstory so you can understand where I’m coming from: “Bear” was born to drug-addicted parents, so he lived with his grandma for 11 years. All she could give him was a computer, and from there video games basically saved his life.

He’s now 20, almost 21. Got his first job 8 months ago. Can’t drive, has anxiety. His friends have all moved away and from missing one credit in high-school he hasn’t graduated, so he works at a gas station 15hrs/3days a week. He now stays with his mom in their apartment paid by his grandpa. His mom is barely home, quit her job and smokes weed when she is home.

Bear is my boyfriend.

Where I need advice :( :

When I met Bear I didn’t know about his childhood. I chose to overlook his lack of a car/license because his kind heart made up for it. Once I started to learn about him and see who he really is it was too late, I fell in love 🥺

6 months later I am starting to doubt it we are right for each other. When we are apart he does nothing but stay in his room and play video games, it’s the only way he can talk to his friends so I get it. He has no car right, can’t go anywhere. But somehow that bothers me, almost annoys me? It seems lazy, am I being too harsh? He complains about his work but I have a hard time feeling bad for him. I’m a full time college student and work 30+ hours a week. I know it’s bad to compare but Sometimes the stuff he complains about I just want to roll my eyes. I’m working so hard and it feels like he’s just sitting there.

Okay so, here’s the other thing. I have a weird “habit”? (Definitely don’t do it on purpose) of meeting guys who, well basically, suck at life lmao. He says he wants to do all these things but needs help, so do I help him? Do I show him how to apply for the high-school diploma program at our college? Do I help him get his license? Do I help him find a better job?

I mean most people tell me he is a project boyfriend and I am wasting my time, be he literally has had no one else in his life to show him what to do... I am completely lost I really am.

He’s one of the sweetest guys I ever met, funny, gets along with ALL my family (that’s so rare!) they like him. I just don’t know if I am trying to help him or trying to change him? Any advice :( /sorry for long post .