I apologize in advance for how long this may be. I just need some advice.

My husband continuously states that I don’t care about him or what his goals are in life especially because he may “potentially” get a job in Houston, Texas and I wouldn’t move there for this job. Note: this has not been applied to yet but he may have a good chance of getting the job from a good reference.

First of all, I absolutely love where I work and he states that it’s not my career but the thing is, it very well could be. I’m only 25 so I’m not 100% sure if it is but I work for my grandma and she may very well allow me to take over her company one day. So why would I want to quit?

Second, we have a 4 month old (first child) who is watched M-F by my husbands mom. Free of charge. She doesn’t want to be paid. We will not have family to watch him for free if we move. And I refuse to put him in daycare while he is under the age of 1. Personal choice.

Third, I’ve stated that he could just find a place there and stay throughout the week and come home on weekends but he refuses this option.

I want him to have his dream job or get a good kickstart in the field. Houston is the only location for this industry because it is not offered or growing anywhere in Texas. But I don’t want to leave where I work and I won’t. And even if all of this didn’t happen for YEARS, I still wouldn’t move. My family is near me. His small family is near us. My sister is here and she’s my best friend.

What would you do? I’m lost. I need him to know that I care but he just doesn’t understand.

Added: please no rude comments. I want to understand it from his point of view but my family is everything to me. I don’t know how to compromise in this situation.