Oh my gosh .. am I wrong or is he?!

So I’ve lived at my place my whole life. Since I was a baby. My mom marries this man about 6 years ago and he’s lived here for that time. ( my step father) .

Theresa lot of issues with him that we have , I used to be very close to him but once I got married it kind of went away. I still live here with my husband and son.

So, last week my husband went out. He had to run errands, but took longer than usual. He has this problem of not communicating where he goes all the time so I get upset. My step dad comes and asks where he is and I say I don’t know. With an attitude because I’m tired of people asking, and I’m tired of not knowing. It’s embarrassing. Anyway that’s not the point. I FaceTimed him and he was at his moms house.

So later on that day my brother is going to sleep over my cousins house. And my step dad asks if I’m going too. I say yes, and he says ohh does your husband know. I say yes, I just texted him and told him. And he’s like no does he know, did he reply. I said I literally just sent the text. So he goes on to say don’t go anywhere without him knowing. I was like, I just told you I told him I’m going. During this conversation my husband replies saying okay and he might pop in tomorrow morning at my cousins place. My step dad keeps going on saying if there’s a problem in this house tomorrow because of him he’s getting kicked out. And you’re going to be a single mother. Right then I start crying, that’s sensitive to me because I love my family. And my husband never threatened to leave. So in the midst of me crying he calls my mom to be a “witness” to my behavior. I, upset, call him controlling and tell him he tries to stop me from going everywhere. ( when I would come back from a store run in the past he’d ask me where I was and why I went alone without my husband ) I told him I can’t wait to leave this place. I call my husband to talk to him cause I can’t anymore, he’s there going on and on making me seem like I’m going insane calling my brothers to witness me too. My brother tries to defend me and he basically tells him to be quiet. On the phone with my husband, he angrily throws the phone on to my bed (he’s standing in the door way) mind you my 3 month old is on the bed. And it hits him and he starts crying.

I just feel so annoyed with his idea of the man being able to do whatever he wants and I can’t even go to tj maxx alone without a million questions. When I say Idk where my husband is he doesn’t have a problem with it. But I can’t even go to my cousins house?

EDIT: he goes on to, after all this call my cousin and say not to invite me anywhere without inviting my husband too or texting him to let him know where I’m going.