i don’t deserve to have a baby 😕 *update on bottom*

so i told my fiancé that i don’t want to tell anyone about our pregnancy until the second trimester & he told me “you’re trying to hide your pregnancy already? you don’t deserve to have a baby” 🙁

i got upset & told him that i’m not hiding it, i just don’t want to tell anyone until the risk of miscarriage goes down.

am i wrong? am i seeming like i’m planning on hiding it? i want to tell the world as soon as i get a positive test but i just don’t want to deal with the heartbreak of telling everyone if something should go wrong.

also, no i’m not pregnant yet but this was a conversation i wanted to have BEFORE i got pregnant so that he didn’t tell everyone as soon as i get a positive test. i’m going to talk to him about this but wanted other peoples opinions first on if i was being ridiculous or not.

update-ish: i’m not sure why this makes him unworthy of being a husband & father. he took what i said based off the fact ALL i said was “once we’re pregnant i don’t want anyone knowing til the second trimester” & i’m 5 years younger than him so he ASSUMED i was hiding it. once i explained it to him he understood. he isn’t an asshole or shitty to me ever hence why i want him to father my children & be my husband. i wanted a second opinion on if i was wrong or not before i told him. thank you all for your comments, i don’t plan on leaving him or stopping ttc 💕