Emotional/Overbearing MIL

I am at a loss on how to handle my mother in law. She is such a sweet lady but she is wayyy too overbearing. Ugh...

The woman saved her son’s baby bottles (26+ years old) and wants to use them on our new baby...

She doesn’t understand the need for space and privacy for the “golden hour” after baby is immediately born...she feels like I’m stopping her from seeing her son and granddaughter...

She has this preconception that she’s going to be spending all this time with the baby. They live 45 mins away and I don’t like sharing my home every single day with visitors...

She’s already offered to babysit whenever I have to go back into the office for work but I don’t agree with her parenting style (she doesn’t even scold/control her dog which makes me wonder how much she’d let a child get by with) and so I prefer a neutral sitter who is going to follow my rules...

Then whenever I voice my opinion and what my husband and I want, she gets her feelings hurt. I’m a very blunt person and I’m not going to sugar coat things and set her expectations so high to where she feels let down in the end. But I just can’t take the neediness!

I guess I’m asking if anyone has dealt with a MIL like this and how they handled it? I’m just at a loss that idk how to even approach her that I don’t even want to talk about baby with her.