I need some assurance that my 4-year-long "situation" is definitely NOT normal.

I got over him easy 4 years ago. We only dated for 2 months and after, we continued to be classmates and good friends.

I'm a friendzone pro. I have several very healthy friendships with guys, no feelings attached. Not many girls can admit to achieving that kind of relationship. My friendship with this particular ex is not like that at all; he clearly doesn't understand the correct way to "friend."

I've accused him of being not over me several times. Each time, he has denied it. "It's not like that." "I'm sorry if I come across that way." I stopped believing his excuses.

He's needy, overly protective, and honestly, I feel like I'm being stalked sometimes.

He deliberately moves chairs around in class so I'm forced to sit next to him. At new years, when drunk, he kept brushing his hand against my leg under the table and continued to do so after I moved away. He only wants to go to a gig if I'm there and gets weird if I don't personally invite him. He shows strong distaste when I talk to anyone that isn't him.

He also hangs out with my older brother and his girlfriend like they've been besties since birth?!

In short, he continuosly comes up with any and every excuse to be near me.

And he never stops messaging me. Ever. Usually, when I don't open the chat it means I don't want to talk to him. Surely he can see that, but for some reason he just can't catch the hint.

He genuinely scares me due to how close he wants to be to me all the time, especially after a drink. I've witnessed him say and do some mean stuff. Being scared of your friend is not normal.

To make things worse for himself, he's too much of a pussy to admit what he's really thinking and feeling.

I need to feel comfortable and secure around my friends. I need to feel NORMAL with them. He's the only "friend" I don't feel normal with.

The majority has informed me of a common solution: End it. Cut ties. Aufwiedersehen. Now, I'm just not the kind of person that does that, but at this stage I'm fully prepared to because I can't think of anything else.

That's that. What's my next move?