Should I break up with him?

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Okay so my boyfriend of one year and a few months have been going through a rough patch lately and we’re currently taking a break. I don’t know what to do anymore so here are some pros and cons.
Pros:
He’s my best friend 
I feel completely comfortable with him
I love him
He has an amazing relationship with my family
Cons:
I haven’t been able to orgasm from sex in 9 months (we’ve tried lots of different things but ultimately he doesn’t last very long)
I’m not super attracted to him
Our relationship has become very dull (rarely going on dates, just hanging out at home, attraction isn’t really there)
He doesn’t make me feel beautiful or hot or sexy
Sometimes it seems like he just doesn’t want to be in my presence 
His parents don’t seem to like me very much

Accepted Answer

When I read you weren’t attracted to him I was like 🥴. Time to go lol

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Maybe you need something to reignite the spark! Or maybe you'd be better off as friends. Taking a break seems like a good idea, because it may make things clearer. Distance makes the heart grow fonder, etc.

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I’d say the cons outweigh the pros here.

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okay so i didn’t find my fiancé attractive before i started getting to know him & we became best friends. so i can’t say much about not being attracted to him. however, if a relationship needs a break then it’s over in my opinion.

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Let’s put it this way..
If you actually need to sit down and write a pro/con list, then the relationship is done.
Happy people in stable relationships don’t have to convince themselves. 😉

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Sounds like more of a friend than a partner...

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Idk how to say this really, but I was literally in your spot, everything really (except it’s the opposite where my parents aren’t fond of him cuz of the troubles we had, but that’s a long story). Yes, we can say it’s best to split up, I thought of that for a long time too, and we even took a break (and this was all last month). I still wait to feel like I’m beautiful around my bf till this day, but boys don’t know that sometimes, so mine never really says it, but I can tell in his eyes for a split second and then they get back to normal (he Asian like me lol so it’s hard to see eye expansion). But if you really feel inside that you don’t belong in his arms no more, then that should give you a sign. I felt like it was best to go too, and debating with my pros and cons, but in the end I still felt this lovey feelings for my bf and I knew that I shouldn’t give up on something so easily. Go with what you think is right with your heart and mind, not just one over the other. I’m still trying to improve my relationship with my bf right now after everything too of what you’re going through, but if you’re both willing to work things out, then everything will come back eventually

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Sounds like you two should be just friends.  Ur first pro was hes your best friend. That's probably how it should stay. Attraction is important and if it's been over a year and it's not there.....end it. But keep the friendship

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If you’re not attracted to him then why are you with him? How can you expect to enjoy sex with someone you’re not really into?

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It sounds like it might be better to break up and move on. I was in a relationship that was similar to the way yours sounds (but his family clearly hated me) for a year and a half. He was my best friend, but I am so glad I broke it off when I did. He should always make you feel beautiful and your perfect person should be perfect to you so you can always make him feel handsome. Hope this helped! This is never an easy thing to do but you've got this girl!!❤

Should I break up with him?

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