I left my ex husband in November of 2016. Our divorce was finalized in April of 2018.

We share two children.

I regretted signing the agreement that I signed immediately. I was backed into a corner and my lawyer threw out empty threats to get me to sign.

I’ve resided in NY. I’ve worked in PA for over 5 years. The divorce agreement I signed binds me to the county I live in instead of a mile radius.

I immediately filed for modification of my divorce agreement, so i could move closer to my job. My first petition was dismissed for lack of information and I was assigned a public defender, since I stupidly spent a ton of money on a divorce lawyer that did nothing he promised he would do. I filed again and stuck with the public defender. We had two pretrials and made it to the trial. I withdrew because my lawyer wasn’t doing what I asked and the judge had made comments of not being for me relocation. I went through the Salvation Army and was deemed a domestic violence survivor and because of that, this woman who runs it helped me file again and helped me with a lawyer. We had pretrials and went to trial.

Sixty days after the trial, I get the judgement. I lost. I’m fighting over a 13 mile difference, from my ex husbands house to the house I want to move to. My lawyer and I figured out a better custody agreement that benefited everyone, including my ex husband.

Now, since we got judgement, my ex husband might go to jail for breaking his girlfriends phone and TV during an explosive argument. It was his weekend this weekend, he made my kids walk to a local deli in a blizzard every day and to a gas station so he could get cigarettes. He didn’t feed my daughter at all today. My son ate the same thing every day since Friday. My ex husband has no job. His car is completely broken down.

I am seriously heart broken.

I am appealing the court’s decision, but I’m completely at a loss. I am a good mother. I give my kids everything and raise them right.

He’s raising my son to talk down to woman and he’s teaching my daughter that men own women.

I just needed to vent. Thanks.