My husband and I have been married for three years. Since I’ve known him he has had an open heart surgery (his third) previous to being married he had two strokes that has impacted his vision. He was married previously to me for 8 years, before his injuries he worked a steady job. When we met he was working but also collecting unemployment. The thing is is that he has been unemployed since his open heart surgery two years ago. He has recovered well but due to his vision he is not easily able to find work. He smokes a lot of pot and has seen a therapist for depression.

We have done couples counseling but I’m just getting frustrated because he relies on me to try to get him work. I got him an interview which he went to but he dressed in sweatpants and unshaven. I work full time and have two children from a previous marriage that I raise. I do all the housework, shopping and driving. I love him but feel so alone and so frustrated. Especially because he wants to have a baby since he doesn’t have kids. I just don’t know what to do anymore. I love him but it feels upsetting to me that he doesn’t do anything except sit at home and watch the news and get high (we are not living together because of this). Please help.