If your spouse had told you they were uncomfortable about a friendship you had with a person of the opposite sex because in the past you had gone behind their back to talk to this friend about personal things in your marriage (sex issues, marital problems) would you drop the friendship or leave the spouse? Or would you continue to talk to this friend without your SO knowing?

My husband continues to talk to a female coworker I have expressed my disgust for and he has said things to her that I felt are way too intimate for a coworker relationship. I have asked nicely on many occasions for him to no longer contact this person or if he has to that it only be for work purposes. And he has continued to keep the friendship but deletes messages and refuses to block her number saying he has to have it for work. I know they are still talking because he accidently emailed himself from my email (long story, he uses my old phone and it’s still connected to my email) and it was a screenshot of him texting to her in Dec 2019. He’s currently deployed and has sworn up and down he isn’t talking anyone or doing anything like that but part of me doesn’t believe it. He’s gone as far as to send me screenshots of his messages page but I can’t stop being bothered by this whole thing. I feel like I’m at my wits end with him and I’ve tried so hard to work on trusting him but if feels forced since he’s deployed. Should I just forget the email I found since it’s from 2 months ago since he seems different now? Or should I confront him about it and bring up issues we had before he left?

Edited to add::: also, since he’s deployed how do I go about the conversation without him just hanging up on me and refusing? Should I just send him the picture of the screenshot without saying anything? Should I write how it’s made me feel? Or should I just wait until he comes home in a few months?