What advice do you have for when it comes to grandparents?

For things like :

Taking pictures with baby and posting them online (I have reasons why I don’t want my kid’s pictures on Facebook because my dad has stolen my grad pictures, and he’s not in my life so I don’t want him knowing I have a child or pretend like he’s in my life)

Dividing time for the kid to visit grandparents on both sides.

Explaining when they’ll sleepover

Edit:

I don’t want my dad knowing because he’s not a safe person, and I don’t need him trying to get rights to see my son either. My dad is manipulative and has violent outbursts. Plus there are many people who don’t allow photos of their children on the internet.

I am fine if they share photos to close friends and family via text. Just don’t post the pictures on social media.

When the kid has their own social account they can post their picture, but I will tell them to block certain people for their safety.