H e l p .

In a relationship, as well as parenting, im sure we all can agree that it should be 50/50.

Unfortunately, i feel overwhelmed because most of the time i do everything for my son, 15m. I dont want to sound like im complaining about having to do so because im not. I love my son and will/would do anything for him because i am his parent, his mama.

BUT

I feel like even though i communicate to my husband he doesnt act, get involved in, have initiative im things.

Monday -fri he says hes at work (which i totally get, duh) BUT he comes home 3:30/4 o clock on the usual and at times 4:30... (which is still not late) And i still dont see him engage/play with him, ask if he’s ate or feeds him. He’s usually on his phone or will want to watch tv. I on the other hand well is with my son most of the time.. he’s usually up by 8/830 (sometimes earlier) and i guess i expect for hubby to take over A BIT once he’s home. And i dont mean it for me to “have a break” but for him to play with our son, even if its indoors. Or yes have an hr or two to “chill” before he takes him on a walk... and yes, i dont mind going! All is better when it’s the three of us. Ugh. Idk if i make any sense... or see what im getting at here but, on the usual my husband arrives, heads straight to the restroom (tmi), spends 45min/hour on his phone, comes out and sits on the couch and continues to play on his phone or whatever else it is OR watches tv. Doesn’t acknowledge him much.. which i feel bad for him and i end up taking over.

The reason im posting this today and even discussing this is because even on the weekends, its the same thing! I have to be the one to day, “hey lets go out, lets take him out or go to the zoo or a park” no initiative from his part. And it’s the WEEKEND! There should be no excuse!

He says he wants another child which tbh, ive really really thought things through and as much as i would love to i think it would be better not to. It’ll be more for me. More work physically and emotionally without much help.

Help??? I express myself and communicate but no difference. Any advice?

I called him out on it this morning because yesterday we had a family bbq. I prepped, washed dishes, cleaned up afterwards, bathed my son and put him to bed. Then i had a rough night with him, he kept waking up and i didnt sleep much. Around 430 i headed to the bathroom and bumped into my husband, told him we’d had a rough night and i hadnt slept much. He didnt ask to take over even though hed gone to bed at 10... At 630 i asked him to warm up his bottle, which he didnt do so i got up and warmed it myself but this time told him to KEEP HIM (that extra hour or two) for me to get some rest.

Then around 9 he barged in, changed him and walked out the door. I asked him where he was going and no response. He wont answer my messages or texts