Need to vent/talk/get shit off my chest

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So I'm announcing after my anatomy scan, which is on the 27th, so I'll probably announce on the 2nd or 3rd of March. We're doing a St. Paddy's Day theme. I'll be 20½w when we announce.

I'm dreading telling my family. Right now, the only people that know are us and our three closest friends. We found out we were pregnant like a week or two before my boyfriend's job stopped paying him. They owe him three paychecks, which he still hasn't gotten and they still haven't sent him his w-2s. This pregnancy was unplanned, my son is only 8 months and my birth control failed. My parents are going to give me so much crap that my boyfriend lost his job and we weren't careful and... You get the point.

My boyfriend has been trying, really hard, to get a job. The issue is that he has Spina Bifida and had a stroke as an infant that left his one leg and foot numb, and his one half of the body shakes. There's nothing they can do to fix those problems and if he's dealing with anxiety the shaking gets worse. He's gone to interviews, but nobody wants to hire him because of his issues. He's spent his whole life proving the doctors (who said he probably wouldn't walk) wrong. He became a first responder, firefighter and a CNA. He's worked hard to support our little family, and then out of the blue his job stopped paying him, so he had to stop going to work. Now I'm supporting our family on my disability money, which is putting him in a bad bout of depression. He hates the thought of applying for disability after working his whole life to prove he can do the same as any other man. It's honestly heartbreaking watching him go through this.

We didn't tell family sooner because I'm high risk, and they had to do a second genetic test that we still haven't gotten the results back for, and with our current financial situation we're going to get a lot of judgement, even though we aren't asking for help. I'm waiting for the anatomy scan so we know if anything is wrong, and then telling my family because I can't put it off any longer. My friend said I'm starting to show (I'm overweight and don't know, but I see my belly every day.)

(Picture of my belly, don't mind my dirty mirror)

(picture of my son, because he is honestly the best part of my life)

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