Advice

So 5 years ago on the 27th of this month I placed a baby for adoption at birth. I had a 1 year old and 3 year old and at the time living in a 2 bedroom apartment with a roommate so my 2 kids my husband and I all shared a room. I felt like it was the best choice because I felt like he deserved a better life. I felt that all 3 kids would suffer if I were to bring another baby home and they would go without a lot of things. I was on the birth control pill so getting pregnant with him was just really unexpected. I chose 2 guys to parent him and we instantly clicked. Ryker has the best life something I could of never given him. We have an open adoption so I am still apart of his life. My two older kids and I have flown out to Seattle 2 times and stayed with him and his parents and they have come to visit my family a few times. They send birthday gifts and Christmas gifts to my 2 older kids and I send gifts for him.

My question is, they adopted another little boy last year, he just turned 1 on the 17th. His birth mom is a druggy and meth is more important to her so the adoption isnt as open. She hasnt made any contact in the entire year.

My kids always get gifts but they are Rykers brothers and sister, I feel obligated to get their other son a present because his birth mom didnt. My mom and close friend said it's not my responsibility to do that and I shouldn't feel bad because hes not my birth son. But this kid (His name is Cannon) doesnt have a birth family to be there for him. My birth son Ryker has my parents, my brothers, me, my other kids and It just makes me feel bad that Ryker has all this "extra" family to get gifts and celebrate and Cannon doesnt.

Idk what to do. Adoption is already hard to process when you're young I dont want to make it more confusing for the kids if I kinda stepped up and played birth mom for Cannon. Idk if any of this makes sense but idk what to do.