Help please ( realationship problems )

So I been in a distance relationship for 3 years he come to see me every 3 months and we spend a week together the last 2 times he came to see me he we got into a bad argument to the point he told when we was n the Airbnb to get out the house n go home n leave everything I got u so I did as told y cause before when his girl Bestfriend was there he was hitting on me n she was trying to stop it he stop after he seen me crying n then I had a little knot on my arm 😔😢😢😢which really hurt I forgave him like a dumb ass n just recent this month he came to see me his Bestfriend wasn’t with him this time we was having a good time n then as soon as he heard the camera go off. From he taking a pic he got mad bust the door open n then tired taking my phone from me he thought I was taking a nude but I took on a regular selfie cause we was bout to go out n I had on a blue dress n ( this was the day on valentines) I showed him the pic n then he was like why u need to post that on sc y u always have to show other ppl what I have n I tell him its Just a pic of my face nun else n u see. N he pushed me on the bed n then he got mad n stuff n then he was starting to get n my face n then he walked out the room I was scared n then hit me a luh then the day went on I sleep n the other room n he slept n the other one then the next day he told me to leave the Airbnb n he told me to leave stuff he got me n I told him okay why ? Cause I had no right over the Airbnb I didn’t pay for it but I left the Apple Watch the furry black heels that he payed for but I have him the money back for it but I still left. It I left the sexy panties and bras and the sex toys I know I’m stupid we still talk to this day n I’m starting to think about everything n its seem to be hurting n having me thinking I need help .........

If I do work this relationship out how can I get him to understand???

How can I tell him I’m not the freak n i told him I’m not like that from the beginning but I do stuff for him when i feel like it but it’s the fact he been having me doing stuff with the toys bavk to back n im getting tired of the toys ( but I don’t go out n do sexual stuff with other ppl ) just how can I work this out?

Or

What are kindness ways I can tell

Him this not going to work ?

I just need sumone help 😢😢