The SAHM Struggle

I love being a SAHM, but definitely have some struggles.

The first being the financial burden I feel. My husband has always been the breadwinner. Prior to staying home, I made a very small salary, my husband makes six figures, and we do well.

However, I see all this money going out and it frightens me. Our bills are always paid, we have savings, we have investments...but spending money scares me. I never buy myself anything because my husband is constantly buying whatever he wants, so I feel like I can’t.

Last night we had to have a talk about it (again). I expressed feeling like a financial burden,etc. He said I was being crazy, and I should buy something, if I want it (within reason). We outlined our actual budget, which is $2500 spending money after we pay our bills each month. He explained how me wanting to buy something for $50 is such a small percentage of our budget and I shouldn’t think twice.

It’s hard for me to spend money when I don’t bring any in. 🤦‍♀️

Secondly, the isolation. It’s a struggle. We have lots of mommy friends and such, but leaving the house is so dangerous these days. Anytime I leave the house with our daughter, she gets sick! I feel like I have to isolate us, and I am far to extroverted for that.

Also, I would kill for a day off. 😂

Any other SAHMs have these struggles?