Watching my friend's 2 kids. Youngest sleeps in carseat?((Updated))
((UPDATE2)) I called. It killed me and I feel like shit but i called. It was for the girls. From everthing i told them, and I told them EVERYTHING, as much as i possibly could. I was on the phone for 45 minutes. (I've been around these girls since day one but due to distance and work I haven't seen them recently. We finally started getting to hang out again and this) My husband came home during the call. He was surprised but he understands. He himself would've have called, but that's because CPS was on his case when he was a kid for no reason, his grandmother just always called on his stepdad because she hated him. But he has my back and is supporting me.i gave him. I told him the that the mom literally told me she only changes her 4times a day bc she only needs to be cleaned 4 times a day. And that the mom also told me 2 months ago the dad snapped while she was at work and left a hand sized bruise on the 3 yr olds face. I told CPS that the dad will react badly when they show up, he's got anger problems and that they've had cps on them before for the mom slapping her daughter when she was 2, and that the dad "is a ticking time bomb." And thats what the mom says too about him btw. But even though i know i did the right thing, i feel like shit. He was my brother y'all. Ive known him for 9 years now. We've lived together, cried together, drank together. We literally act like brother and sister and i love him with everything. 💔 with everything i told them even though I didnt put my name down they'll know it came from me. They will kick me out of their lives for good. They will hate me. And in PA, they'll probably keep those girls and it'll get worse bc I'll never know😭 if i didnt call i could have just watched them a lot and then made sure they were ok that way. But they wouldn't be here every night. And i dont have enough food for 3 kids, the 2 girls and my own 1yrold son. Im so torn, but its too late anyway. I'm praying they take them 🙏🏻
((UPDATED)) So somehow i ended up agreeing to keep them overnight and have them picked up around 9pm the next day. Because it's honestly a 3 hrs drive to drop them off, go to work, pick them up, then go home. When the girls got here it was 40°F and the baby was just in a oncie. When i changed her diaper i literally started crying. I have no idea how long she was in that diaper but the originally mushy wet poop was completely dried making the diaper stick to her back. And the amount of blisters?! Oh my god, when she poops or pees she's screaming bloody murder. It sounds like she's really is in alot of pain. i observed them at home the day before i had to watch them. When shs woke up from her nap in her carseat on the living room floor screaming in pain. Dad just turned the carseat around and pushed it hard enought that it slid into the next room. I was going to punch him... so needless to say, they had a bath last night to get rid of the cradle crap on both of their heads and behind their ears and their knees ect. Mom only gave me 10 diapers, a back of crackers, 2 2oz jars of baby food and an empty bottle for the baby. For the 3 yrold she gave me 1 extra pair of socks, pants, and undies, along with her sippycup.
Last night when it was time for bed i puffed up an air mattress for me, made up the couch for the 3yrold and put the baby in her carseat to fall asleep then moved her to the floor, (at rhis point she is so used to falling alseep in the carseat that she fought it everywhere until i put her in the carseat. It was like pushing a button. She was out. 20 mins later i moved her to the floor and she was fine throughout the night. 😊 so im washing all their clothes while the baby is wearing my son's clothes and the 3yrold is in her extra pants and wearing my smallest tshirt. (She looks so adorable, i wish i could share a photo to show just how adorable these angels are, i won't because they aren't my kids tho) so now I'm washing the carseat. If i showed a picture of that you'd be sick. I threw up. Anyway. I'll be watching them almost constantly so i the very least i can keep a really good eye on them. Im in tears writing this. Why do people have kids if they can't take care of them? And then DECIDE to have more? And then pets on top of it all? Ik I'm not a perfect mom but damn she could at least try!
(OP) I need some advice, what is okay for a one year old who cant walk yet to sleep in when you have almost nothing? Today is the first day ill be watching my close friend's 2 daughters. The oldest is 3 and the youngest is 11 months old. I agreed to watch them from 1pm to 9pm. That means though that the baby will need to go to bed or at the very least take a late nap. My own 18 month old takes one long late nap. He does this in a playpen because we bought a mattress for it instead of a crib because its a bit smaller in gis tiny room and were just going to have to move up to a toddler bed or twin soon. And he was in a bassinet on my bed side for the first 6 months. All of his early bedding is in storage or too small for a 1 year old. Ans he wont let another baby in his bed. Not even a doll. When I asked the mother of the girls to bring her playpen so she has something to sleep in she flat out said no. That her daughter only sleeps in her carseat with a pillow proping her up. I will not and cannot let a baby sleep in its carseat under my roof. She can stand holding on to something but she's not yet coasting what can I put her in to sleep besides her carseat? (Ik for a fact she doesnt JUST sleep in a carseat because when her grandmother had custody she had a crib.
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