He Wants Me To Show Child Support Receipts

When I was 20 I met my-then-30 year old boyfriend. He asked me to move in with him. He had told me in the beginning of our relationship that his grandparents lived with him due to old age. I wasn’t sure to believe it, because idk it seemed sketchy, I asked his brother and his brother said he was telling the truth. I thought it was sweet of him to take care of his grandparents and eventually he asked me to move in so I did.

Well, after moving in I went to the Dr for a checkup. I was on birth control, the doctor wanted blood work done (can’t remember for what) but I ended up finding out I was pregnant. I was scared, I didn’t want a baby. I told him and his family and his family told me I HAD to get an abortion and we HAD to break up. Well I told them to bug off and we stayed together. He was always gone, he got off at 3 but I wouldn’t see him until 9pm. I worked so half the time I didn’t really pay attention, but one day I found out that he had been taking one of my friends on dates and I asked him if he wanted us, this family? Because if he did, cheating on your pregnant gf isn’t the way to do it. Long story short, he said no and I went to my parents and we didn’t see each other or talk the entire pregnancy. I also found out that he lived with his grandparents, not the other way around. It’s not his house, it’s not his car, etc. all his grandparents. So all the money he was using for bills, nope. Didn’t help his grandparents with anything. Btw he still lives with them, rent and bill free. He makes over $5k a month as of right now.

When my daughter was born I invited him to the birth, my water broke and I called him. He has an older son who he doesn’t see and his sons mom didn’t allow him to the birth so I tried to be nice and allow him there since it’s his kid. He told me to fuck off, called me names and said he was taking a nap. 9 hours of labor, he missed. Didn’t see his first daughter born.

He’s never been there. I’ve been a single mom raising her ever since. He’s never paid child support, he’s never seen her, etc. I did allow him to keep her last fall for a weeken (2019) under the agreement that his auntie (his mom passed) would be supervising them. We all agreed to this. Then my baby girl came back with a broke leg and all her hair chopped off. She’s not seen him since. I did try and press charges but nothing came off it. Again, our system is broken.

Well, today he sent me $80 for her. The first time he’s EVER helped or sent money. No I take that back, when she was 1 month old he brought me a small can of formula and a small pack of diapers (24 count) and told me that should last her 2 weeks and said he wouldn’t help after that because he did his monthly contribution 🙄 my parents HATE this man. I ended up having an emergency csection so after her birth I needed all the help I could get, thankfully I had my parents who tried to help as much as they could.

Well here the issue. I now have 2 other children, I am married. My husband helps take care of my little girl and she calls him dad. She calls her sperm donor by his legal name, she doesn’t know him. Well like I said he sent me $80 today but said he wants a receipt of everything I buy for her because “he doesn’t trust me”. And said I better not be buying anything for my other kids with his money.

You don’t trust me with $80 but you trust me to raise our kid? When I ask him why he doesn’t trust me he refuses to give me an answer. The thing is, I have no issue to proving what I buy for her. But why should I? He doesn’t prove to me what he’s bought for her and I sent him money for that weekend he kept her. I think it’s petty and I don’t feel I should do that. I owe him nothing. He owes his child. She deserves something from him. He pays his son $900 a month in child support and sees him, goes to court for him, etc. he doesnt do all this for my baby girl. (Which is he good because I would mop the floors with him in court but he could still try and be a dad to her and show her some love. He doesn’t even ask about her.)

And I don’t know why he thinks I’d buy my other kids stuff because they have a daddy who takes care of them, my daughter included. I don’t need his measly ass $80 to raise my other kids, hell I don’t even need it for my baby girl, My household is well taken care of no thanks to him. But I don’t think he has any right to tell me what I can and can’t spend child support on. If I want to use that money to take my family out to eat and spend time with them, I will. It’s not none of his damn business.

And to those who would like to know, I will be using this money to buy my little girl some spring clothes because she has absolutely no spring clothes that fit her at this moment and the weather is warming up quick!

Opinions and advice? I want to cut him out of the picture so bad...I plan on taking him to court before the end of the year so I can get a custody plan in place because when she starts school I don’t want him being able to just take her from school or anything. I don’t want him even around her.