Husband threw a tantrum

I don’t normally post asking for relationship advice, but I have to rant somewhere. My husband and I had to go to petco to get a proper face harness for my dog so we could start leash training. We had been using one intended for our other dog, it was just to small. ANYWAYS, while in the store, my husband had the leash wrapped around the dog’s waist in a way that isn’t preferred and could be potentially dangerous to the dog. I.e. it should only be used in an emergency situation if absolutely necessary.

He had to be in the store because we wanted to make sure it fit him. We took it out of the box and tried it on him. It fit perfectly, I had a few more things to get, so I told him to just leave it on him. He flat out REFUSED and made a big scene about it like I had just asked him to steal something. As long as we were paying for it, it is honestly not a big deal. We had the box, I just had to grab a few more things.

Eventually, he shoved the box at me and I put it back on Koda. While I was bent over looking at something down one of the isles, both our dogs started freaking out because someone brought their dogs up to mine (of course 🙄) and since the face harness is on Koda, it wasn’t an issue, I just told him to hush and sit. All was fine. But I know without a doubt, he would have lunged forward and most likely hurt himself otherwise.

Fast forward to when we are loading up and I asked my husband to move something out of the way so both dogs fit better. He started accusing me of “having an attitude” and if course we started fighting about what happened in the store. I explained in detail WHY I wanted him to go ahead and put it on the dog, and his justification was “well, I just didn’t want to”.

To me, that’s a sad excuse since it was in the best interest of the dog in that moment. All he had to do was go pay for it so we weren’t walking around the store if it bothers him so bad. Instead he threw a huge embarrassing fit in the middle of a store like a 4 year old.

He then proceeded to tell me how controlling I am even though he will justify blocking doorways so I can’t leave the house, hiding my keys/wallet, and won’t even let me take a walk to ease my mind.

He just asked me if I wanted to get something to eat (I’m obviously still hurt over the entire thing, even though it was kind of stupid) he never once even offered any sort of apology for anything he said, so I asked him if he was going to keep trying to argue with me. This is course set him off again and he continued to call me childish and terrible blah blah blah as usual. Kept talking over me, and then got mad when I stopped trying to talk to him. Then when I told him to stop throwing a fit after he slammed the door and broke my mirror, he called me a bitch on the way out, I told him not to come home, and he said he wouldn’t.

He claims that him preventing me from leaving (which I’ve explained COUNTLESS times that it’s a trigger for me because of a traumatic event with an ex) is justifiable because he wants to work it out and that he is keeping me safe because I’m upset. Am I the crazy one, or is he being controlling?