I am posting anonymously because I know a few girls on here, but I think this is important to share.

Since day one I was always told that letting my baby cry it out was wrong, that it was training him to not depend on me and that it was detrimental to his well being, even that it could cause mental damage.

My son is 7 months and up until a week ago a had to walk my baby around the room (in a very specific and uncomfortable position) for at least 15 minutes until he fell asleep, this was followed by me attempting to put him in his crib asleep about 3 times until he didn’t wake up, He was a terrible sleeper and took 6 20 minute naps a day which means I had to do this SEVERAL times a day. It’s not an exaggeration when I say this probably took 5 hours of my day every day. I felt like my life revolved around his sleep schedule and every morning when I woke up I dreaded the day. I felt like he would cry more than he wouldn’t and it was effecting my bond with him.

Even though I tried to hold out for so long I finally gave in to the cry it out method, I felt so much shame in this but I had to, he is 25 pounds of chunk and I just couldn’t carry him around like that anymore. The first time he cried for 5 minutes and I came in the room to rub his back and talk to him, I left again and he cried for another 5 minutes and this process went on for 30 minutes until he fell asleep. The following days it got much easier and now I can actually put him in his crib and he falls right asleep without any crying!!

Im a new person after this, my bond with him is a lot better and I feel like I can actually enjoy our time together. I tried everything you could possibly imagine before going this route and nothing worked, I’m not saying every baby will do well with this but please don’t let others opinions stop you from doing what you feel is right for you and your baby. And for the moms on here who shamed me when I asked for advice on the cry it out method, I hope you realize every family is different and it’s good to keep an open mind.