6 months and he doesn’t miss me..at all?

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***This is long but please read. Really in need of some guidance from people not as distraught as I am right now. ***
I’ve been seeing my boyfriend for six months which i understand in the scheme of things isn’t long at all. 
Now covid hit and we’re quarantined apart. Before this started I felt like our communication was just not enough to satisfy me but now we only call once a week and if I don’t initiate he will go three days between texting me. When we text he answers my questions but doesn’t ask after me much. I’ve tried finding other ways to connect - dropping by baked goods, sending articles and memes, making cute mix tapes, hell even sexting and it just feels like I hit a brick wall. 
I’ve brought it up several times but with no results. Last night I called him after we exchanged a few heated texts. I told him that when he never reaches out it feels like he never misses me and I don’t feel cared for or desired and that I hoped that that was his intention. He replied saying that he honestly doesn’t really miss me and that he doesn’t think his connection is as strong as mine. 
I was crushed. I know he has struggled with depression and hasn’t had many relationships in the past but he doesn’t seem to grasp how badly his words hurt. I asked him if he even wanted to work on fixing this and he said he would be willing to try. 
I just don’t know if it’s worth it to keep putting in effort with someone who apparently cares for me so little.

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I would break it off. It seems like you are going above and beyond for him and he says he doesn't even care pretty much. You will find someone who appreciates you!!

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Honey, you need to let this boy go. If feelings aren’t the same on both sides than it’s not gonna work. You obviously deserve so much better. Find someone who cherishes you the way you cherished this boy.

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6 months and already at this point🤔 I think you guys should be friends not sure he is emotionally ready for what you are looking for. I wouldn't invest much in trying to fix him as its a waste of time. He needs professional help. I think it's time to find someone that wants/has the  capabilities of caring for you the way care for them. I understand all that "but he's a good guy, i care for him " He isn't ready and you don't know when he will be. So are you willing to wait for something that may never come? Maybe he will start to appreciate you as a friend? Life is short you deserve to be loved unconditionally.

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Sounds like he’s just not where you are. That’s ok! I had a relationship like this once. When we were together it was hot and heavy and he was present and it was awesome. But he lived hours away and would come to town for a week here and there then go back. When he was gone it was poof! Ghost town. I initiated all connection. If I try to let it be in his court then I’d be waiting days and my mind would go crazy. I finally started to move on from my expectation that this guy and I really had something and was turning the focus inward. Then, just as I was getting comfy being single and not needing no man, I begrudgingly agreed to go on a date w a guy who my buddy had been trying to set me up with forever. We got married 12 months later. Second kid on the way. 😉 
This guy is giving you a gift! He’s telling you where he is. He had the balls to be honest and he does care enough about you to say, “k I guess I could try!!” But that’s not enough. You deserve someone who fights for you! Walk away friends and wait to see what the universe has waiting for you.

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The scale is tipped and that’s not a good sign. Relationships won’t work if they are one sided and they won’t work if they are forced. It’s clearly not working and you’re more interested than he is so it’s best to break it off. It will hurt for a while, but you will heal and be able to move on and find someone who is equally in it with you. When I met my SO, we were both equally attracted and remain equally on the same page in our relationship. If someone isn’t sure they want to be with you or isn’t 100% wanting you as much as you want them, they aren’t the one. I’m sorry you’re going through this pain right now. Try to think of his words as a blessing rather than taking them personally. I doubt he means to hurt you, he’s just being honest with you. He doesn’t miss you and he let you know that. That’s huge. Don’t try to hold on even though it’s tempting. It’s okay to miss him, but you have to work on letting him go. Maybe one more call to end things officially, then start healing. It’s gonna suck, but you’ll be stronger for it. Unfortunately, you can’t make someone have feelings for you that aren’t there.

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Why force it?! Cut you loses now. It’s only been 6 months. He’s clearly not interested.

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You know one day you are going to meet someone who appreciates how hard you love. The fact that you check in and actually care. The fact that you want to do special things to let them know you care. Then they are gonna do the same thing for you and you aren't going to be used to it because you are used to guys like this where they dont have to put in any effort at all. You are not doing anything wrong that guy just doesn't deserve your kind of love.

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Right now you have rose colored glasses on so I am going to be honest because I think it will help. This isn't Biut depression. He straight up told you he doesn't feel the connection as strongly as you do..... He told you he does not feel the connection as strongly as you do.... HE told you. There is nothing more to salvage here because it's just not there for him. 6 months in you don't have to try very hard, it's all hormones and excitement. I understand you feel this way. But he is telling and showing you he does not. Please believe him, and don't try to force it or change his mind. This is over, and I'm sorry, break ups are never fun.

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Throw him back! He is not a keeper... time to get back out there and date other guys. I would think critically about what you would like in a relationship long term and look for that. Dating is the honeymoon period of a relationship, if he acts like that now, it isn’t worth working on!

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Yeah quit bending over backwards for someone who doesn’t really care.

6 months and he doesn’t miss me..at all?

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