My boyfriend doesn't prioritize my orgasms

I'm in a long term relationship. Like its been 4 years. I can count the amount of orgasms I've had with him on two hands.

And look I have talked about it with him. I have shown him where to focus. I have bought books. We did meditation befor sex for a while. Bought different toys. Different lubes. I have tried. But he just dosnt go down on me vary often. And when he does he still dosnt know what tf hes doing.

I usually end up finishing myself with a vibrator after when hes fucking around on his phone after we've had sex and I've gotten him to orgasm. And tbh that usually makes it harder to finish myself becouse hes laughing at memes or some shit.

Idk what to do or say. But he isn't trying and I'm pritty close to just calling it and giving up.

Edit: I guess I wasnt as specific as I needed to be. All the things that have been said I've tried with him. I've said he dosnt have to go down on me if he dosnt want to, it can be something else. He can use a vibrator or finger me or whatever. But he gets disinterested. I've tried just getting off befor we have sex but he fucks off and goes on his phone and it pritty quickly stops being a sexy moment. But I apreceat everyone trying to be helpful. 💜