Help 😩

I used to love sex. I had sex a few times a day with my ex boyfriend and it was mind blowing - orgasm every time. I am married 5 years and never want to have sex anymore. My husband comes so quickly like under a minute sometimes and it is just not enjoyable for me at all. I feel like it feels good for a second and then he’s done. He feels really bad about it and wants to make it up to me by doing oral (which I love) but it’s not enough. Sometimes a gal just wants to be pounded 😩 I don’t know what to do and I don’t see how a therapist could help - it’s been like this since we met 8 years ago. He used to say we need to do it more and he will last longer but that doesn’t help either. It definitely affects our relationship - I love him so much but sex is so important in a relationship and I never want to anymore because I just don’t enjoy it. I feel so horribly guilty even admitting this because I have no one to talk to about this. And when I try to talk to him he gets so mad and defensive.