Lupus symptoms & diagnosis

Hi guys so recently I’m going through tests to get a clearer understand of what’s going on with myself. For years I’ve had mild symptoms of lupus, the main one being raynauds. Lupus and bechets syndrome affect my mum and nan (her mum) and over the recent months I have shown more and more symptoms of a flare up.

I feel like I’m losing my mind and I have no where to turn to, the symptoms are taking over and everyday I wake up with something new. I’m constantly tired but can’t rest as I have 2 small children (2 and 6 months) and my husband recently had an operation so needs a lot of help.

Was just wondering how long it took for people to be diagnosed and what symptoms they experienced? My doctor is being super helpful and making the right referrals but hasn’t prescribed anything to help with this flare up.

Any advice/ help would be super appreciated.