Feel like a home wrecker to my babies father!! 💥🏡 How often do you hear from your partner when coparenting????

My ex and I are still legally married yet to get divorced after being separated for 3 years. We've had moments of trying our marriage out again but he called it off over something small which wasn't my fault and would just not talk for a while before reappearing.

Well, he's never seen his child as we live in different countries he lives in America and I live in the UK. I left to come here when pregnant because he was getting more and more emotionally abusive!

It's all a big complicated mess but I've given him the benefit of the doubt to see if he would be a devoting father figure to our child and he never pulls through.

These are the reasons why :

- he never asks regularly at all to see how our son is doing

- he never asks for photos or comments on the ones I send

- he ignores all messages for days until he feels like reading it and never apologises for missing calls

- never ever answers the phone

- only answers the phone literally once every 11 days or 2 weeks and even then he never interacts properly with our son

- when we are on the phone he's just playing the xbox and never goes out of his way to speak to our child

- if I don't contact him he can go a really long time before he would ever ring us, which he never does.

Now he has a new girlfriend who he doesn't live with but she was a single mother of 2 girls and they do spend time together. I've told him before that I know that's his family and hes been adament that they aren't and said our son is his family not her children cause they have a father figure.

He says this but never makes and effort and when I get rejected calls and don't hear from him I end up feeling like we aren't important to him, like we are a horrible reminder of his past he would rarher forget about. He never reads or replies to our messages and never openely says if he will be busy.

I've tried so hard I've told him to get schedule in phone calls for when he's free, he said he will and it's been 5 weeks now and nothing..

Not just that but he's starting to try to be dirty with me now and it's happening every now and again and basically he's trying to use me and basically is cheating on his girlfriend with his actions.

So I feel like a home wrecker.

Im honestly tempted to just stop contact all together as I feel sorry for my son for having to go through this and I don't want my son to think that a father is someone who calls only once every 2 weeks and isn't there for everything he goes through ESPECIALLY when he's growing up.

He didn't pay child support for 3 years and only these last like 3 months has he paid something but even his family are disappointed in the lack of care he's giving but I say to them not to harass him and that If he wanted to be family he would try cause of his own conscience no one else's

So what do I do???

WHAT HAPPENED WHEN I SPOKE UP ABOUT WAITING 2 WEEKS FOR A PHONE CALL

The last time I called him I said "it's been a while I think it's the first time we've video called in two weeks" then he said " stop over exaggerating it's been a few days" so I said "no I'm sure it's been 2 weeks" I then went through the dates and said "see it's already over a few days it's been 11 days since you've last seen us" then he said all I do is over exaggerate over everything because I said two weeks when it's been 11 days so I said "yeah but it's closer to 2 weeks than you says it's only being a few days so I do not over exaggerate" which he replied "yes you do, you over exaggerate over everything" when I asked for an example... He had none!!! 🤦‍♂️

How often do you hear from your partner if you're coparenting??