Big let down

It’s probably not that big it just feels like that in the moment. I was just assured by my husband that literally none of my sexual fantasies are doable. From mild shit like being handcuffed to big things like threesomes. I get it for the multiple partner thing that’s just not his jam I could live with that but today I was about to purchase a small bondage kit for our romantic get away but before spending money I asked if we would use it (lucky I did) his response was “bondage is too much energy”. I have been with this man for 4 years now. He was all gung-ho for bondage when we got together he’s actually pretty experienced in ropes it’s part of why I started dating him, not that he’s ever used them on me. We’ve bought the frictionless tape and a paddle and never used them. They just sit in the closet untouched. (I bought them throughout the years trying to nudge the bdsm interest).

TLDR: I’m pissed because I started dating the guy partially for bdsm and now 4 years later and newlyweds and he tells me “it’s too much energy” when we’ve literally not used that play the entirety of our relationship despite me buying the toys.