Im desperate for advice! Should i leave him?

This is kind of long but these details are important -

I met my boyfriend “s” about a year and a half ago when he was on an exchange program and visiting America. Our first few dates were magical and something from a romance movie. He really swept me off my feet and showed me how a gentleman really acts. We become head over heels for each and become exclusive pretty fast. We knew he was heading back to his home country (Italy) in 8 months and wanted to wait and see how we felt when the date got closer. Fast forward and I decide that I’ll be moving back to Italy with him. It was basically easier for me to move there and him to try to move to America.

Everyone probably sees this situation as super romantic (it was in some senses), but I left a lot behind. I left my dog and two cats which I’m totally attached to, my family and friends and my job. I also sold my car and changed my whole phone plan. The first few months were actually bliss and everything felt so right. It’s super hard here to find a job so I had to go into babysitting which wasn’t super ideal for me. I also didn’t know any bit of Italian so I felt left out a lot. My boyfriend gave me a lot of time and attention so I never felt super depressed about having no friends here and not being able to really communicate.

Anyways, these past months have been extremely hard. For months (6 or more) he hasn’t initiated any sex. If I start it, we will most likely have it, but I’m tired of that. I want to be desired and wanted. At first he made up excuses- it was the stress, it was his diet etc. but he insisted it was never me. I know for a fact he isn’t cheating, however I’ve caught him watching porn. I don’t care if a partner watches porn, but when you’re not having sex with your gf then that’s an issue. He says he does it when he is bored, but it’s like why can’t he come to me and seduce me? I will also go down on him and get really passionate and into it, but when it comes time for him to go down on me, he doesn’t. He doesn’t like it. He fingers me, which is honestly fine for me, but he always has this look on his face like it’s a chore like He doesn’t get off from it. Which makes me feel really crappy about myself. He can tell me it’s his fault and that he’s sorry 100 times but I still feel like it’s me, like I’m too ugly or fat.

Now he’s also working from 8-6 pm and then he plays video games after. He used to never play when we met (unless it was something we did together) but now it’s always at-least once a day. Which never used to bother me, but we have very limited time together and it’s like he prefers to do that then hang out with me. If he wants to hang out he just wants to watch a movie or a show. I just miss the guy who would surprise me at work all the time, tell me I’m beautiful, who would plan cute dates and send me sweet texts. It’s like that guy disappeared. We’ve talked about it SO many times and he’ll feel so bad and say sorry, that he’ll be better and try but he just doesn’t. I know these things might sound minor, but If were to dig into every time and situation this would just be too long.

I’ve started a life here. I’ve been learning this hard ass language. I’ve fell in love with him and his family, but I’m also so upset here for so many reasons. I gave up so much for him to not even touch me anymore and he only just resorts to “sorry” but there’s no change ever. However if I go back, I have no where to live (my family’s house is full), I have no car and no job and I would come back with little money.

I’m so torn because in one hand, I love this man. He is so sweet and never maliciously wants to hurt me. He’s always saying sorry first and never leaves me alone to cry. He gets lazy but I know he loves me so much. He’s even said that if I really moved back that he would send me money every time he gets paid so that I can get grounded again. Life is difficult af here, but he is also my best friend and I know once I leave I really leave. It’s not like any other relationship where I can just text him to come over. I can’t imagine him not in my life, but I’m also longing to be touched again and to feel desired and wanted. I also really miss my dog and I hate taking care of other people’s kids.

I’m just really fucking lost because I feel like if he really loved me he would be putting in that effort. I feel like what Im asking isn’t a lot (he agrees and says he feels defective) and that it’s normal requirements for any relationship. I ask for him to initiate sex more, more quality time and dates and more affection. I have to remind him to kiss me! I shouldn’t have to do that! Even his mom came to visit and stayed with us and told him that he needs to be more affection and to take me on more dates. Even his fucking mom sees it.

So you can obviously see that I’m confused and crushed and just don’t know what to do anymore. I need some unbiased advice. My head is too cluttered to think anymore and I just need to hear anybody else’s opinion.