ADVICE??! PLEASE HELP.. first appointment

Question

so my ex (baby father) lives 2 hours away & he no longer wants to be with me but wants me to drive to come get him for the appointment tomorrow. it doesn’t sit right in my heart bc he’s talking to other females when he told me he loves me. we have tried making it work but he can’t seem to not want this attention from other females. should i “suck it up “ like he tells me & just go get him for the baby or tell him i’m not getting him, i tried to do that before & he called me selfish & told me i’m thinking about myself, but why should i waste my money on gas to get him? if he wants to treat me like i’m nothing. should i just go get him, i can out my feelings aside, i do want him to be there for the appointment & not for me.

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If you want him there and he can't find any other way to get there, then go get him, but don't let him guilt you into anything.
If it were me, I'd tell him to figure out how to get there himself. You're not a doormat and he should be able to look after himself. Soon enough you'll have a cute little baby to look after and you won't have time to babysit a man-child.
Hope your appointment goes well!

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He definitely would be getting his own ride....Regardless of the other issues y’all are having right now, he is a grown man with a baby on the way. He needs to be getting himself in the position to be mobile when his child needs him whether y’all are together or not. And the fact that he’s trying to make it seem like it’s your responsibility to make sure he comes to the appointment shows he has a lot of maturing to do.

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I’d tell him he’s welcome to come and you’d never stop him but unfortunately you can’t go and get him. You’re extremely tired etc etc at the moment and a 4 hour drive in total isn’t feasible. Maybe even end with ‘hope to see you there’ then he can’t say you weren’t welcoming.

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He better find a way to get there or ask one of those females to give him a ride. That’s a lot for you to be doing for someone who is treating you like boo boo.

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Do not go get his ass!! 
He don’t want to be with you that cool, yes it sucks and I no it hurts but we can’t force ppl to stay with us.
However (not that you were in the first place but being a couple you feel more Obligated) you are not responsible for anything to do with his ass anymore!!! He’s the big boy that wants to do “his own thing” THEN HE NEEDS TO be the big boy and find his own ride to the appointments, he can find his own ride to the hospital, he can find his own way to take support the child when he/she is born!!! 
And you should make it clear to him that he is the ONLY PERSON that is selfish to think that you should drive two hours out your way to pick “him” up to go to the appointment is a joke!!! and then what take him 2 hours back hahaha no hunny you big boy find your own damn ride!!!!

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My OB office isn’t letting anyone but the patient in the waiting area and especially not in the back so I would just tell him he can’t come anyway 
Just send him a pic of the ultrasound 
And if he wants to go bad enough then he can find a ride or Uber his butt to the appointment

ADVICE??! PLEASE HELP.. first appointment

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